Written by Tiffany Terrell
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Friend, your sins are forgiven. (Luke 5:20).
How to Forgive
Forgiveness is good for your heart…literally. Everyone in life will be misled, cheated on, betrayed or experience some type of hurt. When someone causes us emotional hurt, the last thing we want to do is forgive him or her for the pain that they have caused. If we do not forgive the ones that have hurt us, we could find ourselves emotionally and spiritually handicapped for the rest of our lives. Forgiveness is the most difficult gift we can give to someone. Forgiveness is a learned process, not something that will happen overnight. Refusing to forgive by holding on to the anger, bitterness, and disloyalty can make your own life unhappy. Forgiving someone is for our own good.
So how do you forgive someone?
Forgiveness is something that you do for yourself. Do not keep thinking of the past or the bad things that happened. When you let go of it, you get over the anger that you felt and it clears the path of forgiveness.
So how do you forgive someone?
- Tell someone about it and then stop talking about it! Sometimes it is good to talk to someone about what has happened. That person might be able to give you some good advice on how to deal with it. Then, stop talking about it. Do not dwell on negative feelings. All you doing is reliving the hurt. Talk about it once then let go.
- Realize that the hate that you have for someone, is not affecting him or her. They are steady going on with their lives while you continue to dwell on what they did.
- Understand that whatever happened was not your fault. No matter how much you beat yourself up wondering why, it is not your fault. You did not make anyone hurt you!
- Do not brush off the offense. Do not overlook or approve the wrong that has taken place.
- The hurts will not heal until you forgive.
- Do not give your power away by not forgiving.
Forgiveness is something that you do for yourself. Do not keep thinking of the past or the bad things that happened. When you let go of it, you get over the anger that you felt and it clears the path of forgiveness.